User: carg85

Suppose a widespread chain store, like Walmart in the US or Aldi/Action in Europe, got a large bunch of chastity belts and put them on sale for 29.99 dollar/euro (or similar amount in your local currency). Would you buy one? And how would you expect the regular people in your community would react?

Suppose a widespread chain store, like Walmart in the US or Aldi/Action in Europe, got a large bunch of chastity belts and put them on sale for 29.99 dollar/euro (or similar amount in your local currency). Would you buy one? And how would you expect the regular people in your community would react?

Suppose a widespread chain store, like Walmart in the US or Aldi/Action in Europe, got a large bunch of chastity belts and put them on sale for 29.99 dollar/euro (or similar amount in your local currency). Would you buy one? And how would you expect the regular people in your community would react?

Hi Kitsune,
of course the corona has some downsides for everyone, but glad to hear it is not all bad. Sad though about not being able to meet Rosa - but perhaps soon it will be possible to e.g. meet outside somewhere, where it is easy to keep your distance?
Especially in your case I don't think corona should be too scary: in your age category the total death rate is 0.2%, and if you don't have any pre-existing conditions (lung, heart, smoking), that decreases fivefold. And there seem to be more men than women dying (60 - 40). So all in all your chance of dying from it should be about 5 in 10.000; probably no more than with the regular flu, and a lot less than e.g. dying in traffic. (numbers taken from: https://www.worldometers.info/coronavirus/coronavirus-age-sex-demographics/) But of course everyone needs to be careful to not spread the disease (esp. to the elderly) and prevent overtaxing the healthcare.

I reread a few of your last posts, and wondered if your parents, and especially your father, worry about the effect being a little will have on the rest of your life, and especially your career. That might explain why they don't allow that much, especially during the day, so that when the corona crisis is over, and later when you get a job, you will still be used to being 'grown-up' during the daytime. I don't expect there will be many books about how to be a parent to a little one, and I it won't be easy to find a balance between accepting what you are, and preparing you to fit in with the rest of the world. And like I said before as a person they also need to find a way to deal with it and find out how much change they can cope with, and wondering if they should change their interactions with you, and how.

At the little communities I think you start thinking about reaching out. I can't quite judge when you would be ready for that - perhaps your therapist can help you with that too, but there really is no reason to be scared about that: everyone there has gone through the same feelings, and I'm sure most little ones were as insecure as you at first. So I think they will be understanding even if you would say something 'wrong'. And even if not, and someone feels hurt, you can apologize and explain you didn't mean it like that. Then, in the very unlikely situation that they wouldn't even accept that, you might have one person who doesn't like you; unluckily such things can happen when you interact with others. But it is much more likely you will make new friends who understand you better than anyone else, since they feel the same. The first step will never become easy, but just start simple, like saying you like a previous post, or ask a question about something concrete, like what someone's favorite stuffie is...

Living at home seems logical to me for now: first get comfortable with who you are, and what you want. Once you are more-or-less settled with that, and the therapy is no longer needed, it might be good to find your own place: sooner or later you will need to learn to be independent and shape your own life. Then you can also choose your own rules about when what little stuff is 'allowed'. I do expect that you'll sooner or later find a suitable partner - either another little one, or someone who will take up a sort of 'daddy' role. (You'll increase your chances of finding someone compatible once you become more active in the communities.) To me it often seems better to first have lived on ones own though, so you know you can take care of yourself if needs be - I've seen enough people who feel trapped in their relationship since they are too scared to leave their partner they no longer love, and be on their own.

Feeling safe with the little stuff I can understand. You can feel removed from all the difficulties and responsibilities of being an adult and return to simpler times.
Responsibilities always have a weird relationship with freedom: you'd say that being able to decide things for yourself is freedom, but not needing to choose and have everything taken care of for you can actually feel more liberating. I believe that that is also the attraction for some little ones and AB's with cribs and other limiting things like harnesses: knowing you're kept safe and that you're prevented from making any wrong choices can give peace of mind. (Of course that is different with a daddy-like partner than with real parents.)

Yes, with such diagnoses it is always nice if you knew earlier. But for me I was in my forties before I realized I might have some autistic traits, and by then I learned to cope with them on my own, which wasn't always easy. So that was why I said you're still relatively young.

Unluckily not everybody can just flip a switch and adjust quickly to such an announcement, so I think it is great that your mother is fine with it, and I'm sure your dad is trying and will at least gradually become accustomed to it.

Are you still in close contact with Rosa? If so, I would expect she might be one of the first you'd tell it to, so perhaps not. (Didn't she go to college further away?)

I'm sorry if I gave you the idea that I didn't want to talk anymore in this topic - that definitely wasn't my intention. I only meant that you seemed to have reached a place where you were at peace with the diapers and back-zip sleepers, so there might at that moment not be so much to write about. Luckily you did check again recently, because I still like to hear how you're doing - we've exchanged quite a bit over the last few years.

Are there more 'little' things you would like to have? Would you for instance want your whole bedroom to look like a nursery?

I'm sure you've heard by now there are more littles like you; have you already tried to get into contact with anyone, or would you want to? I'm sure it would be really nice to talk to others with the same experiences and challenges, although taking the step to make contact might not be so easy. But if you can find a forum/group or something you can always lurk first and read others' posts, and postpone the decision if you're going to post yourself.