User: Nadine Liran

I think you are in the wrong message board. This poll is specifically about genital spanking - meaning spanking on the vulva. If you are against that as a core principle, you are asking at the wrong spot.

Are you the father or the mother?

In either case, you should start by making sure your daughter understands that you are no longer just making threats but are changing the regime. You strip her naked and spank her butt, do not stop before she cries badly. Silently count how many spanks it took you to get to that point.

Once you are done and she is bawling her eyes out, you tell her that this is just for being bratty in general. The next thing will be for actual misbehavior. You should then name 1 thing she did wrong - best if it was only a minor thing. Something small, but noted misbehavior. Afterwards you spank her vulva, and do it as hard as you can. Do it the same amount of times you spanked her butt.

There is no reason to hurry things up though. Feel free to keep your hand between her legs after each spank. Rubbing and pinching is absolutely within reason as well. If you feel it needed, you can even push your thumb on or even in her butthole.

If she complains at all, add 10 more to the number of spanks per complaint.

Once you are done, tell her that since she didnt know you were going to be stricter, you would forgive her previous mistakes now, but she should remember what she is feeling now. Her punishment just now was for a minor thing, so if she misbehaves again it will be much much worse.

Naturally you will have to stick to these words. Either she will still misbehave and you get to punish her even more brutally in the future (spanking with implements, tattooing insults on her, humiliating her in front of friends, etc.) or she starts behaving perfectly, which means you dont need to punish her anymore (though if you feel it would be a good idea anyway, there are plenty of methods on how to give a reason even when there are non to punish her)

I am glad to hear you are spanking her as well! I hope you do so on the bare, cause otherwise it will not be proper.

Of course, I am not sure if I need to tell you but just to be sure. I have heard many fathers and adult men not realize this. As a boy, if you got spanked on the butt when you were little, they had to watch out not to hit you on the balls since that hurts unreasonably and would be cruel, so you only got it on your butt.

However, as dumb as it sounds to say this but: Girls dont have balls. So there is absolutely no reason for you to only spank her butt. If you spank your daughter, actually make sure that you spank her on the butt and also plenty between her legs. That is why she should open her legs during spankings for you, so you can more easily hit there.

Of course since you are unfamiliar with that, it is fully okay if for the next 5-6 years, after spanking her there, you keep your hand on the spot and rub and squeeze and grope a bit, just to get a feeling of how sore she is.

Also to familiarize you with the concept, you can and should request her to lift her skirt and show you her butt and $%!@ after spankings, to see how long they stay sore (and if needed touch them again to feel it). If she complaints about it, punish her again. Actually, even if she only looks like she is thinking about complaining, you should punish her - both with a shorter dress and more spanks.

Glad you are becoming such a good father, next to being a caring one already!

Motherof2 I think you are going exactly correctly with testing the waters. I have send you an email with some suggestions on how I think you can continue testing, without risking everything and in an emergency bad reaction can still 'pull the plug' so to speak without being burned.

So, Vickie, did you tell us anywhere already what you did for Peters birthday? if so, please link me to it