Should I submit to my husband and let him punish me?
Should I tell my husband he can punish me if I displease him? I already did once, but he never really did it. I know he's annoyed by the way I do chores sometimes, but he doesn't say anything. Sometimes I'm lazy, but I really don't do it to annoy him.
| 61% (185) | Yes, you should find a time to tell him that he can punish you | |
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| 5% (16) | No, you should talk to him about what annoys him and work on being a better wife | |
| 1% (5) | No, men are stinky and violent and you don't want to give him any power over you | |
| 40% (121) | Yes, you should give him a note that tells him he can punish you | |
| 20% (60) | Maybe, you should talk to him and see why he didn't punish you before |
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If I decide to tell him that he can punish me, should I limit how he can punish me? He has sometimes tried to push my limits, but for the most part he knows how far he can go with me.
| 10% (31) | Yes, you can't trust him no longer how long you've been married | |
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| 89% (268) | No, you've been married a long time and should relax and trust him |
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If I limit how he can punish me, what should I tell him he can do to me? I want him to enjoy punishing me, so I'm going to list some things that he likes, but like I said I really hate pain so I'm also going to say what I don't like.
| 64% (194) | He can spank me on the butt with his hand (OK with me). Should I limit the number of times? If so, how many? | |
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| 55% (166) | He can spank me on the butt with a belt or flogger (not my preference). Should I limit the number of times? If so, how many? | |
| 51% (154) | He can cane my butt (I really don't like this but he does). Should I limit it? If so, how? | |
| 46% (140) | He can put something in my anus. I really hesitated to put this option in, because sex shouldn't be punishment, but my friend suggested it. If so, what should he put in me? | |
| 47% (141) | He can slap my boobs. If so, should I limit how hard or how many times? | |
| 50% (151) | He can slap my vulva. If so, should I limit how hard or how many times? | |
| 26% (79) | He can punch my boobs. I really don't like this, but at least it's quiet and doesn't wake the kids. If so, should I limit how hard or how many times? | |
| 29% (89) | He can slap my face. I've never let him do this, but he has asked if he can. I'd have to limit it, if you vote for it at all. | |
| 28% (85) | He can write humiliating things on my body. What should he write? | |
| 42% (126) | He can put me in bondage while I redo my chores. How should he restrain me? | |
| 54% (162) | He can tell me how to dress when I redo my chores. I'll get into this question some more later. | |
| 65% (197) | I should submit to whatever punishment he chooses, no matter what it is or how I feel about it |
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I know he likes to see me dressed a certain way, although I don't think I'm attractive. Is this a good punishment, to let him tell me how to dress?
| 92% (276) | Yes, he should restrict your clothing when you misbehave | |
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| 7% (23) | No, that's too personal |
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If I let him tell me how to dress, should I limit when and how he does so?
| 80% (240) | No, he's in charge of your punishment | |
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| 5% (15) | Yes, it should only be when you've agreed to let him (when?) | |
| 4% (13) | Yes, it should only be where you've agreed to let him (where?) | |
| 4% (12) | Yes, it should only be in ways that you've agreed to (how should I let him tell me how to dress?) | |
| 9% (28) | No, but only when you're alone together. | |
| 6% (19) | You shouldn't let him control how you dress |
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Should we write down the rules I have to follow?
| 23% (70) | Yes, you should negotiate them | |
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| 40% (122) | Yes, he should decide on your rules | |
| 25% (77) | No, he should just decide when to punish you | |
| 2% (6) | No, you shouldn't have to follow his rules | |
| 4% (13) | Yes, you should tell him what rules you're willing to follow | |
| 3% (11) | No, you should talk about them but not write them down |
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If he wants to humiliate me as punishment, should I agree to that? If so, what kinds of humiliation are OK?
| 16% (48) | No, that cuts too close to the bone | |
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| 11% (35) | Yes, you should negotiate what he can do to humiliate you (what?) | |
| 52% (158) | Yes, he should humiliate you in any way he wants | |
| 19% (58) | Yes, he should tell you now how he'll humiliate you for punishment but you should have a veto over anything that would hurt you psychologically |
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What kinds of things should my husband be able to punish me for?
| 55% (166) | Just because | |
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| 72% (218) | Not having a submissive attitude | |
| 70% (210) | Poor hygiene | |
| 80% (240) | Poor attention to chores | |
| 62% (188) | Not greeting him at the door when he comes home | |
| 62% (188) | Not letting him have anal sex with me | |
| 68% (205) | Not giving him a good blowjob | |
| 57% (173) | Not offering my body for bondage | |
| 51% (153) | Not asking him to do whatever he wants to me | |
| 48% (145) | Not begging him for sex | |
| 42% (128) | Not asking if I can lick his ass (I have never done this and don't want to, but he wants me to) | |
| 43% (129) | Not asking if he'll piss on me (he has done this but not lately and I think he's waiting for me to offer it) | |
| 52% (157) | Not offering to let him have anal sex with me (I don't like this because it hurts, due to his large size, but I know he wants it) | |
| 18% (54) | Other (what?) |
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What do you think I should do? My husband likes to hurt me, but I don't like to be hurt. My husband likes to humiliate me, but I don't like humiliation. My husband is unhappy with how I do things, and I want to please him--but how?
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Please state your gender
| 44% (134) | male | |
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| 53% (159) | female | |
| 2% (6) | other |
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What is your age?
| 5% (17) | Under 18 | |
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| 13% (40) | 18-21 | |
| 22% (67) | 21-30 | |
| 25% (75) | 31-40 | |
| 16% (49) | 41-50 | |
| 11% (33) | 51-60 | |
| 6% (18) | over 60 |
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Does someone have the right to punish you?
| 56% (168) | Yes (how?) | |
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| 14% (44) | No, but I wish that someone did (how?) | |
| 24% (73) | No, and I would never let someone punish me | |
| 4% (14) | No, but I used to have someone who did (how?) |
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If the genders were reversed, do you think that I should let myself be punished?
| 56% (169) | Yes, it's all about your relationship | |
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| 3% (10) | No, no one should be punished | |
| 40% (120) | No, men shouldn't be punished by women |
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