Are any other students still disciplined by their family?

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When I was child and teenager I got spanked occasionally for not following major rules. I always knew the reason and accepted it. It hurt but never harmed me. One of the major rules in our family consists in always doing your best to become and be a responsible member of society, a rule I accept completely. The rule was: Tell us about your tasks, ask for help if you need some and do your best. If the result was not as expected, we talked about it and if they thought, I could have avoided it, I was spanked. So I knew: inadequately school work would mean a hurting buttom and burning fingers. This kind of discipline really helped me to manage motivational problems in my teenages. Starting my studies I moved out. My parents support me, especially by paying my tuiton fee. And that is why they still feel responsible to supervise my advantage. Because I live with my longtime boyfriend, they say, we should even share this part of my life. So my friend knows about it. Usually we are visiting my parents the last weekend per month and I have to tell them about my progress to be reviewed. Mostly I achive the target, but sometimes I need to be punished. Does it also happen to you? Are you a student which learning progress is strictly supervised or are you a parent doing so? What do you think about it?

First of all: Who are you?

	40% (77)	I am male.
	50% (95)	I am female.
	70% (133)	I am a student and my learning progress is supervised.
	12% (24)	I was a student and my learning progress was supervised.
	5% (11)	I am a parent and am watching my grown up childs learning progress.
	5% (11)	I am a different person supervising someones learning progress.
	5% (10)	I know about parents supervising their grownups learning progress.
	1% (3)	I am only interested in this topic.
	1% (3)	other

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For students which are intensivly supervised: I am _____ years old and my _____supervises my learning process. Every _____ I make a report about my results. I do it because _____.

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For people supervising students avancement: I am _____years old and I am supervising the learning process of my _____ which is _____ years old. I do it _____ (alone, with my...). Every _____I make a report about his / her results. I do it because _____. It will end when _____.

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For people knowing about a supervised student: I know _____ supervised students, which are _____years old. They are supervises by _____ .

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Do you know any other supervised students or supervising parents?

	12% (24)	Yes, many.
	50% (95)	Yes, some.
	13% (26)	Yes, one.
	18% (35)	No, only my family.
	5% (10)	I do not know any family like this.

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Do you talk about it? Who knows it?

	16% (30)	I never talk about it.
	51% (94)	My family talks about it sometimes.
	26% (49)	I talk about it with some other people:
	11% (21)	Only my family knows about it.
	31% (57)	My boyfriend / girlfriend knows it.
	46% (85)	Some friends know it.
	6% (12)	A lot of people know it.

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How do you (have to) report your parents? Please describe a typical situation.

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What are your / your parents expectations?

	45% (86)	A or 1.0 in every test, work, exam.
	54% (103)	B or 2.0 in every test, work, exam.
	8% (16)	C or 3.0 in every test, work, exam.
	2% (4)	D or 4.0 in every test, work, exam.
	21% (41)	taking the normal number of courses.
	18% (36)	Doing additional courses,tasks. How may, what?
	16% (31)	other

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Do you get / give a punishment for not reaching the demanding marks?

	82% (156)	Yes.
	8% (16)	Sometimes.
	7% (14)	Only if...
	2% (4)	No.

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If yes: What kind of punishment would give / get for a F or 5.0? Please describe.

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If yes: How do you punish / are you punished for marks lower than demanded?

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What about your general behavoir, attitude? Do they want you to report it?

	70% (134)	They expect me to tell them about missed lessons and I do.
	24% (47)	They expect me to tell them about missed lessons and I do sometimes.
	5% (11)	They expect me to tell them about missed lessons but I do not.
	54% (104)	They want me to report faults like forgetting to return a book, to default, missing tutorials and I do.
	21% (41)	They want me to report faults like forgetting to return a book, to default, missing tutorials and I do sometimes.
	7% (14)	They want me to report faults like forgetting to return a book, to default, missing tutorials and I do not.
	47% (90)	They want me to tell about minor faults like beeing late, to tired.... and I do.
	28% (54)	They want me to tell about minor faults like beeing late, to tired.... and I sometimes.
	8% (16)	They want me to tell about minor faults like beeing late, to tired.... and I do not.
	8% (17)	They only expect to know about my marks.

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What about the behavior? Do you punish / are you punished for any of the namend faults?

	3% (6)	No.
	3% (6)	No, but I would, if they knew about it.
	37% (67)	Yes, for major faults.
	36% (66)	Yes, for moderate faults.
	48% (87)	Yes, for every fault.

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What kind of punishment do you get / give, if the behavior in connection with the studies does not satisfy the expectations? Please explain.

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Do you think your parents are to stict?

	25% (45)	They are to strict.
	53% (94)	They are strict but not to strict.
	0% (1)	They are not very strict.
	1% (3)	They are not strict at all.
	12% (21)	I wish they would be less strict.
	7% (13)	I wish they would be stricter.
	22% (39)	I think it is ok they way it is.
	8% (14)	other

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How do you feel about reporting your parents?

	12% (21)	It is ok.
	13% (24)	I like it.
	41% (72)	I accept it.
	11% (20)	I do not like it.
	9% (17)	I hate it.
	11% (20)	I feel...

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Why are you reporting your parents about your advantage?

	55% (95)	They want it.
	16% (28)	I want it.
	41% (72)	It is the way my family works.
	27% (48)	I want to please my parents.
	29% (51)	I want my parents to be proud of me.
	47% (82)	I respect my parents and their rules.
	48% (83)	It helps me staying focussed.
	52% (91)	I need the discipline.
	11% (19)	other

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What kind of punishment do you get / give, if the behavior in connection with the studies does not satisfy the expectations? Please explain.

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Do you get any reward for specific or outstanding performance?

	43% (67)	Yes, please explain:
	17% (27)	Sometimes:
	38% (60)	No.

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What do you think about the way my family does it?

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This poll was created on 2015-09-11 20:14:50 by lisla