Women disciplining male partners
Are you currently in a heterosexual relationship in which the woman has disciplinary authority over her male partner?
| 16% (2) | I am a woman in such a relationship. | |
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| 83% (10) | I am a man in such a relationship. | |
| 0% (0) | I am not in such a relationship (please go to results). |
12 voters have answered this question.
Which of the following forms of punishment does the female partner in your relationship use for *minor* transgressions? Check all that apply.
| 91% (11) | Spanking | |
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| 66% (8) | Corner time | |
| 41% (5) | Chastity | |
| 25% (3) | Mouth washing | |
| 33% (4) | Chores | |
| 33% (4) | Humiliation | |
| 50% (6) | Removal of privileges | |
| 33% (4) | Grounding | |
| 25% (3) | Bondage | |
| 16% (2) | Other (please specify) |
12 voters have answered this question.
Which of the following forms of punishment does the female partner in your relationship use for *major* transgressions? Check all that apply.
| 83% (10) | Spanking | |
|---|---|---|
| 66% (8) | Corner time | |
| 41% (5) | Chastity | |
| 16% (2) | Mouth washing | |
| 16% (2) | Chores | |
| 75% (9) | Humiliation | |
| 41% (5) | Removal of privileges | |
| 25% (3) | Grounding | |
| 25% (3) | Bondage | |
| 16% (2) | Other (please specify) |
12 voters have answered this question.
Female partners: if you could use only a single form of punishment in the future, what would it be?
| 25% (2) | Spanking | |
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| 0% (0) | Corner time | |
| 25% (2) | Chastity | |
| 0% (0) | Mouth washing | |
| 0% (0) | Chores | |
| 0% (0) | Humiliation | |
| 0% (0) | Removal or privileges | |
| 0% (0) | Grounding | |
| 0% (0) | Bondage | |
| 12% (1) | Other (please specify) | |
| 37% (3) | I am the male partner. The question does not apply to me. |
8 voters have answered this question.
Which of the following forms of punishment is the most effective, i.e. most likely to improve the male partner's behavior and attitudes?
| 41% (5) | Spanking | |
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| 0% (0) | Corner time | |
| 25% (3) | Chastity | |
| 0% (0) | Chores | |
| 8% (1) | Humiliation | |
| 8% (1) | Removal of privileges | |
| 0% (0) | Grounding | |
| 0% (0) | Bondage | |
| 16% (2) | Other (please specify) |
12 voters have answered this question.
How commonly is spanking used as part of a punishment? (Assume that there are no practical obstacles to carrying out a spanking, i.e. that you have the required implements, privacy, etc.)
| 33% (4) | Every punishment includes spanking. | |
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| 16% (2) | Almost every punishment includes spanking. | |
| 41% (5) | Most punishments include spanking. | |
| 8% (1) | Some punishments include spanking. | |
| 0% (0) | No punishment includes spanking. |
12 voters have answered this question.
Which of the following factors are important in determining how effective spanking is as a method of discipline? Check all that apply.
| 66% (8) | The certainty that he will get spanked if he transgresses | |
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| 50% (6) | The timing of the spanking | |
| 66% (8) | How much it hurts | |
| 33% (4) | How much he fears being spanked | |
| 41% (5) | How guilty or ashamed the spanking makes him feel | |
| 75% (9) | How humiliated he feels | |
| 41% (5) | The scolding, corner times, and other circumstances | |
| 16% (2) | The position in which he is spanked (please explain) | |
| 8% (1) | Other (please specify) |
12 voters have answered this question.
How does the severity of a spanking relate to its effectiveness in improving behavior and attitudes?
| 0% (0) | A mild or symbolic spanking is as effective as a harder one. | |
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| 8% (1) | A moderate spanking is as effective as a harder one. | |
| 75% (9) | Hard spankings are the most effective. | |
| 16% (2) | Severe spankings are the most effective. |
12 voters have answered this question.
Does the punishment for a single transgression ever include multiple spankings (administered at different times)?
| 16% (2) | No | |
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| 25% (3) | Yes, the most serious transgressions are punished with multiple spankings but that's rare | |
| 33% (4) | Yes, serious transgressions are punished with multiple spankings and it's not uncommon | |
| 16% (2) | Many transgressions are punished with multiple spankings. | |
| 8% (1) | (Almost) all transgressions are punished with multiple spankings. |
12 voters have answered this question.
If multiple spankings are used as punishment for certain offenses, what is the largest number of spankings ever given for a single offense?
| 9% (1) | 2 | |
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| 18% (2) | 3 | |
| 18% (2) | 4-5 | |
| 18% (2) | 6-10 | |
| 27% (3) | >10 | |
| 9% (1) | The punishment for a single offense never includes multiple spankings. |
11 voters have answered this question.
If an offense is punished with multiple spankings, how long is the interval between the spankings? (Choose the closest match.)
| 9% (1) | The spankings are given on the same day. | |
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| 72% (8) | The spankings are given on consecutive days. | |
| 9% (1) | The spankings are spaced several days apart. | |
| 0% (0) | The spankings are spaced a week or more apart. | |
| 9% (1) | The punishment for a single offense never includes multiple spankings. |
11 voters have answered this question.
If an offense is punished with multiple spankings, are the spankings especially severe?
| 54% (6) | Yes | |
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| 36% (4) | No | |
| 9% (1) | The punishment for a single offense never includes multiple spankings. |
11 voters have answered this question.
In which of the following ways does the male partner sometimes react during a punishment spanking? (Check all that apply.)
| 33% (4) | He "takes it like a man" | |
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| 75% (9) | He is mostly quiet but groans or cries out ("Ow!") after some hard strokes | |
| 33% (4) | He is groaning in pain | |
| 25% (3) | He is squirming or kicking | |
| 16% (2) | He is sobbing | |
| 33% (4) | He is crying out ("Ouch!") | |
| 0% (0) | He is screaming | |
| 16% (2) | He is sweating | |
| 8% (1) | He is arguing or complaining | |
| 25% (3) | He is begging | |
| 50% (6) | He is trying to fight back tears from the pain | |
| 41% (5) | He is shedding a few tears from the pain | |
| 16% (2) | He is crying like a baby from the pain | |
| 33% (4) | He is shedding tears due to the stress, humiliation, or feelings of guilt |
12 voters have answered this question.
When administering a lash/stroke/swat to the male partner during a punishment spanking with an implement other than her hand, the female partner usually...
| 0% (0) | moves only her wrist | |
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| 16% (2) | swings her forearm | |
| 16% (2) | swings her full arm | |
| 66% (8) | Any of these, depending on how severe she wants the spanking to be |
12 voters have answered this question.
If the male partner is begging for mercy while being spanked, the female partner typically...
| 0% (0) | relents and reduces the number or severity of the remaining lashes/strokes/swats | |
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| 58% (7) | ignores the pleading (he has not yet received what he deserves) | |
| 41% (5) | adds additional lashes/strokes/swats or imposes some other form of additional penalty (begging is not allowed) |
12 voters have answered this question.
When administering a punishment spanking, the female partner typically...
| 0% (0) | announces the number of lashes/strokes/swats at the beginning | |
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| 33% (4) | decides on a number of lashes/strokes/swats at the beginning but does not announce it | |
| 8% (1) | carries on until she reaches a certain result, such as tears or genuine signs of contrition | |
| 58% (7) | just carries on until she decides that he's had enough |
12 voters have answered this question.
Are tears of pain required for a spanking to constitute adequate punishment?
| 41% (5) | Yes, if the offense was serious enough | |
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| 8% (1) | Yes, no matter what the offense was | |
| 50% (6) | No, never |
12 voters have answered this question.
Female partners: could spanking be used to punish him for cheating on you (he would be forgiven after the spanking)? If so, what should the spanking be like?
| 18% (2) | Spanking is not an adequate punishment for cheating | |
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| 0% (0) | Single spanking that ends before he is close to tears | |
| 0% (0) | Single spanking that ends when he is close to tears | |
| 0% (0) | Single spanking that ends when he is shedding tears | |
| 0% (0) | Single spanking that continues after he is in tears (tears after 75% of spanking) | |
| 0% (0) | Single spanking that continues after he is in tears (tears after 50% of spanking) | |
| 0% (0) | Single spanking that continues after he is in tears (tears after 25% or less of spanking) | |
| 0% (0) | Multiple spankings that end before he is close to tears | |
| 0% (0) | Multiple spankings that end when he is close to tears | |
| 9% (1) | Multiple spankings that end when he is shedding tears | |
| 27% (3) | Multiple spankings that continue after he is in tears (tears after 75% of spanking) | |
| 9% (1) | Multiple spankings that continue after he is in tears (tears after 50% of spanking) | |
| 9% (1) | Multiple spankings that continue after he is in tears (tears after 25% or less of spanking) | |
| 0% (0) | The questions does not apply to our relationship since he is allowed to date other people. | |
| 27% (3) | I am male. The question does not apply to me. |
11 voters have answered this question.
Does he have a safeword during punishment spankings?
| 83% (10) | No. | |
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| 16% (2) | Yes. |
12 voters have answered this question.
Which implements are used in spankings for the most *minor* offenses? (Check all that apply.)
| 91% (11) | Hand | |
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| 41% (5) | belt | |
| 0% (0) | tawse | |
| 25% (3) | strap without holes | |
| 16% (2) | strap with holes | |
| 8% (1) | leather paddle | |
| 58% (7) | wooden paddle without holes | |
| 16% (2) | wooden paddle with holes | |
| 8% (1) | bullwhip | |
| 0% (0) | other singletail whip | |
| 0% (0) | cat-o-nine tails without knots | |
| 8% (1) | cat-o-nine tails with knots | |
| 8% (1) | Other flogger | |
| 8% (1) | light rattan cane | |
| 8% (1) | heavy rattan cane | |
| 16% (2) | bamboo cane | |
| 16% (2) | light synthetic cane | |
| 16% (2) | heavy synthetic cane | |
| 8% (1) | loop | |
| 16% (2) | cable | |
| 8% (1) | Other (please specify). |
12 voters have answered this question.
Which instruments are used in spankings for the most *serious* offenses? (Check all that apply.)
| 33% (4) | Hand | |
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| 75% (9) | Belt | |
| 16% (2) | tawse | |
| 50% (6) | strap without holes | |
| 16% (2) | strap with holes | |
| 8% (1) | leather paddle | |
| 33% (4) | wooden paddles without holes | |
| 41% (5) | wooden paddle with holes | |
| 8% (1) | bullwhip | |
| 8% (1) | other singletail whip | |
| 16% (2) | cat-o-nine tails without knots | |
| 8% (1) | cat-o-nine tails with knots | |
| 16% (2) | other flogger | |
| 16% (2) | light rattan cane | |
| 16% (2) | heavy rattan cane | |
| 25% (3) | bamboo cane | |
| 25% (3) | light synthetic cane | |
| 16% (2) | heavy synthetic cane | |
| 8% (1) | loop | |
| 8% (1) | cable | |
| 8% (1) | other (please specify) |
12 voters have answered this question.
How many lashes/strokes/swats are administered as punishment for a single transgression? Please check every option that correctly describes some punishment you have given in the past. For example, if you have given a punishment of 25 swats on one occasion and a punishment of 50 swats on another occasion, check both "21-30" and "41-50". For multiple spankings, add up the number of lashes/strokes/swats given in these spankings. For example, if a single offense was punished with two spankings of 50 lashes each, check "76-100".
| 25% (3) | 1-5 | |
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| 25% (3) | 6-10 | |
| 50% (6) | 11-20 | |
| 58% (7) | 21-30 | |
| 25% (3) | 31-40 | |
| 41% (5) | 41-50 | |
| 16% (2) | 51-75 | |
| 33% (4) | 76-100 | |
| 33% (4) | 101-150 | |
| 25% (3) | 151-200 | |
| 8% (1) | 201-300 | |
| 25% (3) | 301-500 | |
| 16% (2) | 501+ |
12 voters have answered this question.
Female partners: if you had to punish an offense of *the most serious kind* and you had to use a rattan cane, how many strokes would you give? (If you would use multiple spankings, then please add up the number of strokes given in these spankings.)
| 0% (0) | 1-5 | |
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| 0% (0) | 6-10 | |
| 0% (0) | 11-20 | |
| 10% (1) | 21-30 | |
| 10% (1) | 31-40 | |
| 10% (1) | 41-50 | |
| 0% (0) | 51-75 | |
| 0% (0) | 76-100 | |
| 0% (0) | 101-150 | |
| 10% (1) | 151-200 | |
| 0% (0) | 201-300 | |
| 0% (0) | 301-500 | |
| 20% (2) | 501+ | |
| 40% (4) | I am male. The question does not apply to me. |
10 voters have answered this question.
How long do the marks last after a spanking for a *minor* transgression?
| 8% (1) | The spanking does not leave marks | |
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| 50% (6) | The marks disappear the same day | |
| 25% (3) | The marks last until the next day. | |
| 16% (2) | The marks last for several days. | |
| 0% (0) | The marks last for a week. | |
| 0% (0) | The marks last for two weeks or longer. |
12 voters have answered this question.
How long do the marks last after a spanking for a *serious* transgression?
| 0% (0) | The spankings do not leave marks. | |
|---|---|---|
| 8% (1) | The marks disappear the same day. | |
| 33% (4) | The marks last until the next day. | |
| 33% (4) | The marks last for several days. | |
| 16% (2) | The marks last for a week. | |
| 8% (1) | The marks last for two weeks or longer. |
12 voters have answered this question.
Punishment spankings are given...
| 0% (0) | after a warmup | |
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| 100% (12) | without warmup |
12 voters have answered this question.
Which of these transgressions sometimes earn a spanking?
| 100% (12) | Disrespectful behavior | |
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| 66% (8) | Failure to do chores | |
| 75% (9) | Sloppiness in doing chores | |
| 83% (10) | Potentially dangerous behavior (such as reckless driving) | |
| 41% (5) | Laziness at work | |
| 75% (9) | Arrogance | |
| 75% (9) | Poor attitude | |
| 50% (6) | Irritability | |
| 50% (6) | Procrastination | |
| 50% (6) | Inattentiveness to emotional needs | |
| 41% (5) | Inattentiveness to sexual needs | |
| 16% (2) | Other (please specify) |
12 voters have answered this question.
Who initially suggested adding discipline to the relationship?
| 63% (7) | She did | |
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| 9% (1) | He did | |
| 18% (2) | We arrived at the decision together | |
| 9% (1) | We got the idea from some other source (please specify) |
11 voters have answered this question.
How much does discipline improve the relationship?
| 8% (1) | Not much | |
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| 0% (0) | A little | |
| 66% (8) | Significantly | |
| 25% (3) | A lot |
12 voters have answered this question.
What is your age?
| 16% (2) | 18-24 | |
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| 33% (4) | 25-30 | |
| 0% (0) | 31-40 | |
| 16% (2) | 41-50 | |
| 25% (3) | 51-60 | |
| 0% (0) | 61-70 | |
| 8% (1) | 71+ |
12 voters have answered this question.
