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Women disciplining male partners

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The aim of this poll is to collect data about common practices in heterosexual relationships in which women have disciplinary authority over their male partners. Please take this poll only if you are in such a relationship or have been in the past. This poll is not intended for those who are merely fantasizing about being in such a relationship. While many couples engage in erotic spanking, this survey is specifically about disciplinary measures and is concerned with spanking only as it is used for punishment. Many thanks for completing the survey!
Are you currently in a heterosexual relationship in which the woman has disciplinary authority over her male partner?
I am a woman in such a relationship.
I am a man in such a relationship.
I am not in such a relationship (please go to results).
Which of the following forms of punishment does the female partner in your relationship use for *minor* transgressions? Check all that apply.
Spanking
Corner time
Chastity
Mouth washing
Chores
Humiliation
Removal of privileges
Grounding
Bondage
Other (please specify)
Which of the following forms of punishment does the female partner in your relationship use for *major* transgressions? Check all that apply.
Spanking
Corner time
Chastity
Mouth washing
Chores
Humiliation
Removal of privileges
Grounding
Bondage
Other (please specify)
Female partners: if you could use only a single form of punishment in the future, what would it be?
Spanking
Corner time
Chastity
Mouth washing
Chores
Humiliation
Removal or privileges
Grounding
Bondage
Other (please specify)
I am the male partner. The question does not apply to me.
Which of the following forms of punishment is the most effective, i.e. most likely to improve the male partner's behavior and attitudes?
Spanking
Corner time
Chastity
Chores
Humiliation
Removal of privileges
Grounding
Bondage
Other (please specify)
How commonly is spanking used as part of a punishment? (Assume that there are no practical obstacles to carrying out a spanking, i.e. that you have the required implements, privacy, etc.)
Every punishment includes spanking.
Almost every punishment includes spanking.
Most punishments include spanking.
Some punishments include spanking.
No punishment includes spanking.
Which of the following factors are important in determining how effective spanking is as a method of discipline? Check all that apply.
The certainty that he will get spanked if he transgresses
The timing of the spanking
How much it hurts
How much he fears being spanked
How guilty or ashamed the spanking makes him feel
How humiliated he feels
The scolding, corner times, and other circumstances
The position in which he is spanked (please explain)
Other (please specify)
How does the severity of a spanking relate to its effectiveness in improving behavior and attitudes?
A mild or symbolic spanking is as effective as a harder one.
A moderate spanking is as effective as a harder one.
Hard spankings are the most effective.
Severe spankings are the most effective.
Does the punishment for a single transgression ever include multiple spankings (administered at different times)?
No
Yes, the most serious transgressions are punished with multiple spankings but that's rare
Yes, serious transgressions are punished with multiple spankings and it's not uncommon
Many transgressions are punished with multiple spankings.
(Almost) all transgressions are punished with multiple spankings.
If multiple spankings are used as punishment for certain offenses, what is the largest number of spankings ever given for a single offense?
2
3
4-5
6-10
>10
The punishment for a single offense never includes multiple spankings.
If an offense is punished with multiple spankings, how long is the interval between the spankings? (Choose the closest match.)
The spankings are given on the same day.
The spankings are given on consecutive days.
The spankings are spaced several days apart.
The spankings are spaced a week or more apart.
The punishment for a single offense never includes multiple spankings.
If an offense is punished with multiple spankings, are the spankings especially severe?
Yes
No
The punishment for a single offense never includes multiple spankings.
In which of the following ways does the male partner sometimes react during a punishment spanking? (Check all that apply.)
He "takes it like a man"
He is mostly quiet but groans or cries out ("Ow!") after some hard strokes
He is groaning in pain
He is squirming or kicking
He is sobbing
He is crying out ("Ouch!")
He is screaming
He is sweating
He is arguing or complaining
He is begging
He is trying to fight back tears from the pain
He is shedding a few tears from the pain
He is crying like a baby from the pain
He is shedding tears due to the stress, humiliation, or feelings of guilt
When administering a lash/stroke/swat to the male partner during a punishment spanking with an implement other than her hand, the female partner usually...
moves only her wrist
swings her forearm
swings her full arm
Any of these, depending on how severe she wants the spanking to be
If the male partner is begging for mercy while being spanked, the female partner typically...
relents and reduces the number or severity of the remaining lashes/strokes/swats
ignores the pleading (he has not yet received what he deserves)
adds additional lashes/strokes/swats or imposes some other form of additional penalty (begging is not allowed)
When administering a punishment spanking, the female partner typically...
announces the number of lashes/strokes/swats at the beginning
decides on a number of lashes/strokes/swats at the beginning but does not announce it
carries on until she reaches a certain result, such as tears or genuine signs of contrition
just carries on until she decides that he's had enough
Are tears of pain required for a spanking to constitute adequate punishment?
Yes, if the offense was serious enough
Yes, no matter what the offense was
No, never
Female partners: could spanking be used to punish him for cheating on you (he would be forgiven after the spanking)? If so, what should the spanking be like?
Spanking is not an adequate punishment for cheating
Single spanking that ends before he is close to tears
Single spanking that ends when he is close to tears
Single spanking that ends when he is shedding tears
Single spanking that continues after he is in tears (tears after 75% of spanking)
Single spanking that continues after he is in tears (tears after 50% of spanking)
Single spanking that continues after he is in tears (tears after 25% or less of spanking)
Multiple spankings that end before he is close to tears
Multiple spankings that end when he is close to tears
Multiple spankings that end when he is shedding tears
Multiple spankings that continue after he is in tears (tears after 75% of spanking)
Multiple spankings that continue after he is in tears (tears after 50% of spanking)
Multiple spankings that continue after he is in tears (tears after 25% or less of spanking)
The questions does not apply to our relationship since he is allowed to date other people.
I am male. The question does not apply to me.
Does he have a safeword during punishment spankings?
No.
Yes.
Which implements are used in spankings for the most *minor* offenses? (Check all that apply.)
Hand
belt
tawse
strap without holes
strap with holes
leather paddle
wooden paddle without holes
wooden paddle with holes
bullwhip
other singletail whip
cat-o-nine tails without knots
cat-o-nine tails with knots
Other flogger
light rattan cane
heavy rattan cane
bamboo cane
light synthetic cane
heavy synthetic cane
loop
cable
Other (please specify).
Which instruments are used in spankings for the most *serious* offenses? (Check all that apply.)
Hand
Belt
tawse
strap without holes
strap with holes
leather paddle
wooden paddles without holes
wooden paddle with holes
bullwhip
other singletail whip
cat-o-nine tails without knots
cat-o-nine tails with knots
other flogger
light rattan cane
heavy rattan cane
bamboo cane
light synthetic cane
heavy synthetic cane
loop
cable
other (please specify)
How many lashes/strokes/swats are administered as punishment for a single transgression? Please check every option that correctly describes some punishment you have given in the past. For example, if you have given a punishment of 25 swats on one occasion and a punishment of 50 swats on another occasion, check both "21-30" and "41-50". For multiple spankings, add up the number of lashes/strokes/swats given in these spankings. For example, if a single offense was punished with two spankings of 50 lashes each, check "76-100".
1-5
6-10
11-20
21-30
31-40
41-50
51-75
76-100
101-150
151-200
201-300
301-500
501+
Female partners: if you had to punish an offense of *the most serious kind* and you had to use a rattan cane, how many strokes would you give? (If you would use multiple spankings, then please add up the number of strokes given in these spankings.)
1-5
6-10
11-20
21-30
31-40
41-50
51-75
76-100
101-150
151-200
201-300
301-500
501+
I am male. The question does not apply to me.
How long do the marks last after a spanking for a *minor* transgression?
The spanking does not leave marks
The marks disappear the same day
The marks last until the next day.
The marks last for several days.
The marks last for a week.
The marks last for two weeks or longer.
How long do the marks last after a spanking for a *serious* transgression?
The spankings do not leave marks.
The marks disappear the same day.
The marks last until the next day.
The marks last for several days.
The marks last for a week.
The marks last for two weeks or longer.
Punishment spankings are given...
after a warmup
without warmup
Which of these transgressions sometimes earn a spanking?
Disrespectful behavior
Failure to do chores
Sloppiness in doing chores
Potentially dangerous behavior (such as reckless driving)
Laziness at work
Arrogance
Poor attitude
Irritability
Procrastination
Inattentiveness to emotional needs
Inattentiveness to sexual needs
Other (please specify)
Who initially suggested adding discipline to the relationship?
She did
He did
We arrived at the decision together
We got the idea from some other source (please specify)
How much does discipline improve the relationship?
Not much
A little
Significantly
A lot
What is your age?
18-24
25-30
31-40
41-50
51-60
61-70
71+
This poll was created on 2022-08-29 05:12:46 by pascal220