User: kelticman1972

Who is to blame?

In order for blame to exist, harm and/or wrongdoing are prerequisites.

For an 18 year old to have sex with a 12 year old is wrong. The 18 year old in this situation did something wrong and is to blame for his own actions. He is the only person here who has done anything wrong. The girl didn't do anything wrong. She wanted to have sex, so she found someone to have sex with. Her parents might not like it, and society may cringe, but at the end of the day the choices is hers to make because it is not possible to prevent her from making that choice if she is determined to do so.

Punish the guy, but stop it with the hand wringing neurotic angst over what the girl did because there is nothing strange or unusual about it.

All of the reasons you list for living with your mother are bogus. They're excuses, nothing more. You're living with your mother because you are unwilling to take responsibility for yourself and for putting a roof over your own head.

If you're 25 years old you've got no business living with anyone you're not either married to or sleeping with, and I don't think your mother qualifies as either.

The woman in question is 25, not 15.

Luckily you have the freedom to choose not to date her, but don't begrudge others who choose differently.

Whether it is incest or not is irrelevant. What matters is whether it is right or wrong. I lost my virginity to my sister, and she to me. What we did was incest. We were lovers. Was it wrong? Well to the degree to which that question is not a subjective one, and is to be answered objectively, it depends upon whether harm was done in the process. No one was harmed by our relationship. If anything we both benefited from having our first sexual experiences with someone we loved and who is still in our life today. We haven't had sex in almost 17 years now, but we still adore one another. I would do anything for her and vice versa.