User: Mr.Allan

I'm a big believer in the value of traditional gender roles. The majority of relationships as well as society as a whole will benefit from men being masculine and women being feminine. It's the natural order of things and trying to rebel against it typically just causes problems. Some people may prefer other lifestyles, but most of the time it's much better to stick to tradition.

As far as how a wife can be more feminine, I think it has to do with three main categories: Attitude, Behavior, and Clothing. If a wife diligently focuses on these aspects of her life in her efforts to become more feminine, she'll have success. I'll share some of my personal opinions on the best way she could do this.

ATTITUDE: A feminine attitude would be one of meekness, humility, and submission. A feminine wife is not a doormat who allows others to boss her around, but rather she chooses to defer to her husband out of trust and respect for his leadership, and she obeys and follows his guidance in life. A feminine wife practices remaining calm and peaceful by not allowing her emotions to dictate all of her behavior and, when she slips up in this regard, she accepts correction from her husband. She speaks properly and avoids vulgarity/profanity, she makes an effort to remain cheerful and lift the spirits of others, and she enjoys her unique role as a woman without attempting to engage in masculine habits or actions.

BEHAVIOR: A feminine wife should make efforts to support and comfort her husband in any ways that she can, and she should actively seek out opportunities to help him and to make his life better. She should recognize that, out of all people on the planet, she is the one person who should never purposefully add stress or negativity to her husband's life. She should not put him down, insult him, belittle him, or disrespect him. She should act in ways that she knows will please him and she should become a wife who brings him honor and respect in public. She should practice ladylike behavior, such as keeping a good posture and keeping a healthy and fit body. She should make clear that she is sexually available for her husband whenever he needs it, and she should enjoy being a highly sexual woman within the confines of her marriage.

CLOTHING: A wife should dress in clothing that clearly highlights her femininity and distinguishes her as a woman. Dresses, skirts, and heels should be commonplace in her wardrobe. Underwear such as bras and panties should be worn sparingly, as they can be unhealthy and unhygienic for her skin. Apart from that, she should tailor her appearance to match the desires of her husband, including things such as her hairstyle, body hair, skin, nails, makeup, etc. Her best choice would be to allow her husband to choose what she wears and how she presents herself whenever she is in public. In private and when at home, her best choice is to remain nude and allow her husband to have the benefit and joy of seeing her body.

These are all just my opinions and I am in no way stating that every woman must follow these ideas exactly in order to be a good wife or have a good marriage, but perhaps they can be helpful to any women out there who are desiring to become more feminine.

Have a look through this website and you'll find around a 10:1 ratio of polls that discuss a wife controlling or dominating her husband vs polls that discuss a husband controlling or dominating his wife. Funnily enough, on the polls that feature a woman doing the dominating there are virtually no people complaining about it in the message forums and instead there are plenty of people celebrating the idea of a man being forced to serve a woman.

I wonder why that is? Why are the people so feverishly complaining about this poll's creator and posting about the need for equality in relationships in forums like this, but in the forums for the polls that have women in charge there are very few of such calls for equality? Smells like hypocrisy.

For the record, I think married and consenting husbands and wives should be able to have whatever relationship structure they want. As long as they each enter into the situation voluntarily then it's fine, but I'll be against it whenever a spouse is forced into some kind of servitude, regardless of gender.

Ideally, a wife should want to help relieve her husband's sexual needs whenever he asks for it. But this isn't always practical due to illness, work, kids, stressors, etc. In those cases it's better for a husband to just exercise some willpower and wait until he can be intimate with her again.

Now, what about cases where a wife is simply refusing to meet her husband's sexual needs indefinitely and when she easily could? Well, that's her failure as a spouse, so in these instances I understand a husband's desire to use $%!@ion as a way to cope and to avoid doing something much worse like cheating (which is never okay).

It's just another fetishistic fantasy about men being weak and submissive, which is completely against the natural order of things since males are SUPPOSED to be strong, masculine, and dominant. Western society has been demonizing masculinity for decades now and the result is a bunch of sad, confused, weak men and a bunch of women who can't find decent guys they can trust to lead them in relationships.

And unfortunately Misterpoll is filled with polls and forums focusing on boys and men being slaves to girls and women, or about males being weaker than females, or about any such similar nonsense.

Waiting until after marriage to have sex is the logical and correct approach. It's when sexual activity can be special, lifelong, intimate, and safe. Premarital sex is a cheapening of the act that turns it into nothing more than a way to seek temporary physical pleasure, when the real purpose of sex should be to bond a couple closer together and to create an opportunity for a new life to begin. Sex doesn't truly satisfy when you "bond" with a bunch of different people with no commitment involved.

Sure, it may feel good in the short term and when you're young, but what about when you're older and want somebody who will be there with you for the rest of your life? Would having sex with that person still feel as special as it would have been if you had waited? Nope. And will your partner be happy about the fact that you shared your intimacy with multiple people before you got married? Doubtful.

And one last point that's important: In the past, men viewed marriage as a way to obtain sex. They knew that making a commitment to their wives was the way to acquire the ability to have regular sex without using measures such as hiring prostitutes. Women knew this and protected their virginity in order to maintain their purity and sexual value as a way to entice men into making these lifelong commitments. Basically, men wanted marriage for sex, comfort, and children. Women wanted marriage for protection, provision, and children. Our current society has devalued marriage by moving away from this traditional approach to it and by ignoring God's role in the union.