User: dirtgirl
https://www.misterpoll.com/polls/628727
One to add to the list which I'd forgotten about - a Pat O'Malley song from the 1930s, How Do You Do Honolulu (the title sounds like a parental enquiry into bowel movements: "on a loo-loo"!)
Just to check - are you saying that besides reactive punishment there are ritual/"maintenance" punishments? And that you specifically time these to coincide with family visits?
It may be weird but I've long since stopped being alarmed by it - as a mother (of two, in effect) who knows the lengths you have to go in your attempts to impose disicpline (i.e teach self-discipline). Also restraint of females is linked to preparing them for a sexually submissive role (which isn't something you can either put off or deny the need for, female-supremacists please note).
https://www.misterpoll.com/polls/628025