User: wayfarer

One thing I hope you did is buy your son a Brats doll set. Most girls his age have outgrown Barbies. If you send him to a regimented camp, it will not make him into a little macho man. It sounds to me as though he is transgendered, that is he was born with a boy's body but a girl's mind. (Of course you didn't reveal that much about him.) If that's the case, sending him to boot camp will have no effect on his sexual identification. It is neither your fault, his mother's fault, society's fault or his fault. It's like a kid who is born left-handed. Forcing a lefty to use his right-hand will not make him use his right hand. Forcing him to use his right hand will cause a lot of psychological problems that will be difficult to rectify. Similarly, trying to change a transgendered child's sexual orientation will cause a lot of problems for him. If you want him to hate you and to hate anything manly, send him to that boot camp. Both you and he would be better of if you would accept him for who he is and not try to play god by trying to change this fundamental aspect of his identity. Purely out of curiosity, what did he get for Christmas, hmmmm?

Most kids your son's age sit around gorging on junk food, watching TV and growing fat. At least he has a body he can be proud of. I have nephews his age who never take their shirts off because they don't want to reveal their rolls of fat. If anything, his healthy body indicates you are a good mom. The only thing I would worry about in regards to your son is that he apply sunscreen regularly, if his ethnicity requires it. I suspect what upsets you is his girlfriend rubbing his abdomen and taking picture of it. That wouldn't bother me if it were my son, but you're his mom. I suggest you tell him that you find that behavior inappropiate at his age, and if you hear of that happening again, he will have to wear a shirt for a whole week, even if it's the hottest week of the year and he has to spend the week at Grandma's. I also hope you have a long discussion about the birds and bees with him. Kids grow up a lot faster than they used to. Also, would it have been any better if it had been a boy caressing your son's sixpack and taking pictures of it? ;)