User: carg85

Hi Kitsune, welcome back! I still check this topic about once a week, but expected that you had already moved on. Most topics sooner or later die out. So I'm happy to hear how you're doing again.

I think it's great that a therapist discovered things that make so much sense to yourself, like the puzzle pieces suddenly falling into place. For me mild ASD doesn't come as a surprise; I have a few small autistic characteristics myself. Intelligent people can usually learn to compensate for the downsides to a large degree, and I'm glad you found out relatively early in life, so you can adapt fairly easily.

A Little is a bit more surprising. You have mentioned before that you thought you were focused more on some 'childish' things and clothes than you considered normal, but given how you agitated against diapers and one-piece pajamas, that was not something I suspected. Of course you needed to tell your parents, and it's good to hear they are OK with it (up to a point). Do you have an idea what kind of age you feel most drawn to?

I think there is a big difference between people who like to play younger than they are (adult babies/age play), or feel they are younger than their age. (Just like transvestites like to dress up, while transsexuals/transgenders want to be the other gender.) With adult babies it's often sexual, and like you say with Littles it is not related. That does not mean that with the right partner you might not also play with it and have sexuality involved in it as well, or not, but that will become clear when that happens, and not something that needs consideration at the moment.

What kinds of 'Little' things do you have/use now? You mentioned a pacifier; do you also use a sippy cup? I would not expect things like playpen, crib, high chair, or car seat, both because I suspect you would consider that a bit much, and because your parents probably wouldn't want to go that far.

And how does it affect your clothing style? You already had a number of pajamas with more child-like themes, but have you changes in what you wear in public, or do you stick to 'appearing like a grown-up' there? Of course nighttime diapers during the day take up space, so that limits some clothing choices, but you must be used to that by now. So probably still a lot of overalls and jumpsuits? Do you change into more childlike clothes at home? Or do you usually just wear jammies then?

Yes, in this situation staying at home makes a lot of sense; even when there are some limitations it is nice to be cared for and be able to focus on study and dealing with these mental developments.

Anyway, good to be hearing you're doing well and making progress.

I don't have any onesies with a back flap. For nr 1 I use the front zipper, and nr 2 is at times when I don't wear one. So I can't be sure about their usefulness. But they were very common for children in the first half of the 20th century (see e.g. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8uPCBV7UNJg for a reconstructed one), and the American Long-johns seem to sport them often too. So I expect them to be useful. Perhaps if you stand the hole seems to be in the wrong place (too high up the back), but I expect that to be different when you sit.

But anyway - I would advice onesies without a drop seat if you don't need it - I've heard too many stories of them opening up unwanted (especially if they close with snaps), and warmth escapes through the sides.

Yes, many clothes seem to have closures that are not needed. Back-buttoning blouses and sweaters are also in fashion at the moment, but it seems that 90% of them you don't need to open the buttons -except perhaps the top 1 or 2 on blouses with a collar.
There are even quite a few back-buttoning jumpsuits and rompers for sale at the moment (e.g. Asos seems to have at least 10). Those seem even more inconvenient that back-zip versions.

If you do a search for onesie and backflap or dropseat, you'll see there is plenty to choose from, although some flaps seem so small that I wonder how useful they are (e.g. https://pbs.twimg.com/media/B2_H5SEIYAAjV4a.jpg). And snaps (poppers) probably open too easily in bed.
But if you don't need to go to the bathroom during the night, you might not need it? (Unless you also like wearing one in the evening and/or morning.)

For some jumpsuits, and even the occasional dress, a front zip can be more suitable, like with denim or utility jumpsuits, and some women like to be able to lower a front zip far enough to show some, or a lot of, cleavage. But often the smooth look in front is nicer, yes.

I actually saw some fashion jumpsuits in online shops that had a cord attached to the back zip - probably to help women who are not that agile, but I always found that looks daft, and I hadn't even realised others might start playing with it. And if it is a loop - can you imagine it catching on something while you walk by, and have your zip pulled down? :-O

Yes, I think dresses with attached panties are rare, but apart from tennis you see it a lot with figure skating dresses, sometimes as a modesty precaution for younger girls, and also with women's dresses where the bottom parts center front, is see through, ...

I would expect women looking for a relationship might also be more willing to endure discomfort to attract attention, and even though that can happen at any age, I expect teenagers to be most active in that arena. (Both due to hormones, and because a higher percentage of older women already have a partner.)

Of course the downside to attracting attention is that you usually can't control whose attention, so it might also increase cat calls, groping etc. Now I don't condone any of that, but sometimes I wonder about the argument of women that they are wearing daring clothes purely for themselves. And then I wonder if they would do that on an uninhabited island too, if they do it only for themselves. You tell me you wouldn't (the same way I would feel), but perhaps others would?

Women might consider onesies with a drop seat (back flap) that opens for nighttime bathroom visits. From what I hear they are not always ideal, so if you normally sleep through the night it might be better to stick to the ones without one. Even though the weather here in the Netherlands doesn't get too cold, I do like fleece onesies in winter, so that I'm still warm when I get out of bed (morning or bathroom). I just don't use my warmest duvet combination anymore.

I wonder if you'd actually be able to wiggle out of your current romper(s) - often zips are only added if necessary, although it of course also depends on your agility and what size romper you got.

For tighter jumpsuits a back zip actually makes it easier to take off (once you've coped with the zipper): it's easier to get over your shoulders. That's why many wetsuits have a back zipper (and a big line to help with pulling it up and down).

I have heard of women who worry about jumpsuits and bathrooms, but they just wear them when they are with friends who might help them. (Esp. women not agile enough to open a back zipper by themselves.)

With back zip dresses I would expect you'd usually be able to lift the skirt part enough that you don't need to take it off in a bathroom. Or is that hard with many dresses? I assume dresses with attached panties are rare?